There comes a time in your life when you often don't feel good enough, that your opinions aren't worthy of being heard, and when you wonder, why your friends even allow themselves to be associated with you.Quite often, I still feel like a teenager trapped in an adult's body, like at 22, I'm not old enough for bills and having to buy my own shampoo, I often wonder if that feeling ever goes away. Personally at 70 I think i'm still going to be watching re-runs of The Inbetweeners, or thinking it's socially acceptable to be going into town for a 'few quiet ones' which inevitiably turn into going '; out, out'.
In Year 11, my English teacher set us a challenge: we were to each write our name on the top of a piece of paper, and pass them round the class. Everyone was then meant to anonmously write a quality they admired or something they loved about that person down, and then pass the paper on to the next person, and so on and so forth. People in my class, who barely knew each other, all summoned up something incredible to say, something which could really lift a persons mood, and self esteem. And in a way, it was nicer to see what they had to say about me than my closest friends. The ones who didn't know me as well, wrote the things which really i cared about most, because it showed me how other people saw me. These are some of the things written on that piece of paper,
'Serious and opinionated, you stand up for what you believe in'
'Always helping me even when you don't realise it'
'Always listens to me whether you have time or not, someone who makes me feel wanted as a friend'
'very tough and independent'
'sweetheart, really caring'
'very funny- always sticks up for her friends, lovely'
Isn't that amazing?
Even better- they all came from people who I wasn't that close to, who weren't neccessarily in my circle of friends. Humbling doesn't even cover it.
Take a long hard look at yourself. You are so much better than you think you are. You are not inadequate. You are more than you even realise.The people in your life, who you love, are blessed to have you. Remember that.
'Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine as children do. It's not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own lights shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.' Coach Carter
Happy New Year.
For those that are still struggling, have a listen of this.
In Year 11, my English teacher set us a challenge: we were to each write our name on the top of a piece of paper, and pass them round the class. Everyone was then meant to anonmously write a quality they admired or something they loved about that person down, and then pass the paper on to the next person, and so on and so forth. People in my class, who barely knew each other, all summoned up something incredible to say, something which could really lift a persons mood, and self esteem. And in a way, it was nicer to see what they had to say about me than my closest friends. The ones who didn't know me as well, wrote the things which really i cared about most, because it showed me how other people saw me. These are some of the things written on that piece of paper,
'Serious and opinionated, you stand up for what you believe in'
'Always helping me even when you don't realise it'
'Always listens to me whether you have time or not, someone who makes me feel wanted as a friend'
'very tough and independent'
'sweetheart, really caring'
'very funny- always sticks up for her friends, lovely'
Isn't that amazing?
Even better- they all came from people who I wasn't that close to, who weren't neccessarily in my circle of friends. Humbling doesn't even cover it.
Take a long hard look at yourself. You are so much better than you think you are. You are not inadequate. You are more than you even realise.The people in your life, who you love, are blessed to have you. Remember that.
'Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine as children do. It's not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own lights shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.' Coach Carter
Happy New Year.
For those that are still struggling, have a listen of this.
Open your eyes. Something beautiful is happening.
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